Terrific Toddlers: How to Stop Interrupting

Terrific Toddlers: How to Stop Interrupting

It’s been a while since I wrote to you Toddler and Pre-school Parents. Today, let’s talk about interrupting, and how to instill patience. Even adults need to learn how to stop interrupting. It is impolite and disrespectful.

Oh, Those Interruptions!

When you are under six years old, you are, quite naturally, self-centered. You believe that what you have to say is more important than any other conversation or activity going on around you. You are sure that the adults in your life will stop whatever they are doing to listen to what you need to tell them.

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Starting Over: Restoring Trust

Starting Over: Restoring Trust

Have you ever been betrayed by someone? It’s a deeply painful experience. Maybe you’ve been blindsided by one major betrayal of trust. Or maybe your trust has been broken over and over again in small ways over a period of time until you finally realize it’s been completely worn out. So how do you start over?

When the offender is your son or daughter, it carries a special kind of hurt. Your relationship may seem beyond repair, but remember that God is still at work.

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Setting Boundaries as an Act of Love

Setting Boundaries as an Act of Love

Two Stories

Recently, I listened to the painful stories of two moms of Prodigal Sons. One of the women’s sons is a teenager, the other an adult with a wife and children. One son has a substance-abuse problem, the other has disconnected himself from his family. I love these two women; they are my sisters in Christ and they are hurting from the behavior of their sons.

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The One About Trust

The One About Trust

I have been thinking for a few days about the concept of trust. What does it look like? How does it play out in our lives? What does it mean to parents, especially parents of prodigal sons and daughters?

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Wise Advice From Moms: Part One

Wise Advice From Moms: Part One

Let years of wisdom teach us

I sat down with some moms the other day. These moms have been parenting, grandparenting, and even great-grandparenting for their entire adult lives. The collective years of parenting among the group are well north of a hundred years. It’s a great source of untapped wisdom, this group, and I have the pleasure to know the living results of their parenting wisdom.

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How to Say Good-bye

How to Say Good-bye

Graduation Day

I had a “moment” this week. It happened when I was helping out at a high-school graduation party for some of the teens in our church youth group. As I watched them joking around with each other, I had a feeling of wanting to keep that evening, to preserve it as it was. This moment can never be re-created because everything, including the kids themselves, will change.

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What Kind of Parent Are You?

What Kind of Parent Are You?

The buzz in the media is all about the bribery scandal: Parents bribing their kids’ way into college. I don’t know about you, but when I heard it, I said, “What kind of parent does that?” Certainly a rich one, but aside from that, what kind of parent feels compelled to go that far?

Everyone has a different style of parenting. Some are over- or under-protective. Some parents are strict disciplinarians from the cradle forward. Others follow the philosophy that you only have one chance to be a child.

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Don’t Be Discouraged

Don’t Be Discouraged

Default parenting is a thankless job. So is “regular” parenting. Sometimes, we’re trying to row upstream against the rapids, and sometimes we’re becalmed in the fog.

Wherever you are in your parenting journey, take heart. Help is on the way.

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A Prodigal Speaks: Advice for Parents

A Prodigal Speaks: Advice for Parents

My Prodigal, Ricky

It’s a rare opportunity. I have a prodigal son, soon-to-be-released from prison, who is clear-eyed, grown up, sober, and has returned to the Christ he has known all his life. In a phone call last night, I asked what advice he would give to parents.

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Default Mom’s Lessons in Love

Default Mom’s Lessons in Love

So, you’re a Default Mom. You have taken on the responsibility of parenting (or co-parenting) someone else’s children. You might be a stepmom, a foster mom, or a full-time caregiver. With Mother’s Day this weekend, your children will probably be with their biomom, and you’ll be hosting your annual no-presents-again pity party.

Put down your carton of ice cream and listen to me. This lesson is all about you, and how to be the Best. Default Mom. Ever. This is about changing your perspective and expectations, and it comes to us courtesy of a first-century writer.

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