Hello, my name is Judy, and I am a hypocrite.
For almost 40 years, I have been raising other people’s children (as a stepmother), teaching in Montessori schools, and advising parents on discipline and childrearing. I am a Christian woman who is in church every time the doors open. I am the go-to person for parenting advice among my church family and friends.
I am also the enabling parent of a son who has been in and out of jail and prison since he was about 13.
How did I get here? How did he get there?
For the simple reason that I am a bossy know-it-all who wouldn’t do what I was telling other people to do.
You know, it is very easy for me to parent other people’s children. Consistency, limit-setting, and expectations all look very different when you’re standing on the other side of the parent boundary. I can toilet-train a toddler with one hand tied behind my back, take away a teenager’s cell phone for a month, or make a 10-year-old go to bed when “everyone else’s parents” are letting them stay up late. It was all well and good…until it applied to my youngest son, Ricky. My Achilles’ Heel.
Take advantage of our experience
As painful as our life has been, Ricky and I both want to share what we learned on our journey so that other people can avoid the drama and trauma we’ve dealt with for nearly thirty years.
In my first blog, I put together a list of things I wish I had known and advice I should have followed. I’ll be addressing each of these topics individually in the future, with the aim of making a difference in your life and your relationship with your son or daughter. Ricky will be chiming in from time to time with his perspective as well.
Please join us as we embark on this venture. I am praying that you will see how our life lessons apply to you, and that you will use them to dodge a major life bullet.
Grace is real–